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Be careful by choosing your partner.

Socrates proclamed, funnily : "Every time, marry her : if she become a good wife, you will be happy; if not, you become philosophe, wich is excellent for man". Of course, we can to reverse sex in this sentence!

But is not it better to choose of entrance the good one?

Seven direct recommendations :

1° The stability of the marriage results from a determination based on a will of iron to see him(it) making a success(succeeding). 

2° Do not get married to anybody who has profile which are unbearable for you

3° Do not get married impulsively!

4° If you are really a believer, do not allow a godless to dominate you.

5° Do not  move in with your partner before wedding... 

6° Do'nt marry if you are too young. 

7° The stability of the marriage results from a determination based on a will of iron to see it making a success. 

8* Do not risk to be a victim of a sentimental swindle

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The stability of the marriage results from a determination based on a will of iron to see him(it) making a success. 

The marriage can be difficult even when two persons are fervently in love one of the other one. It is mortal when it have not this foundation to build above. 

 "We needed one of the other one, we did not leave any more, our lives became entangled, and so the love was born". (Vincent Van Gogh)

Do not get married to anybody who has profile which are unbearable for you. 

You can plan to change him(her) in the future, but it will not probably arrive. The deep behavior was formed during the childhood, and it is very difficult to modify them.

Consequently, if you are not able of living with a characteristic which shows itself before wedding, it can undermine you for the rest of your life. 

For example, here are some alerts that you'll not to ignore: The one who drinks every evening, who is insane with  money, who is fundamentally impure, who tends to be violent when he is irritated or who is extremely selfish. : What you see is what you get (WYSIWYG) : this is true for mariage also! Of course, everybody have imperfections, I am not suggesting that a person must be perfect to be a candidate in the marriage.

Rather, my point of view is that you have to decide if you can tolerate a whimsical behavior for all the rest of your life - because it is the time which you'll maybe have to compose with it... 

Do not get married impulsively!

I cannot think of a better way of wasting your life that to make a crucial decision without an attentive reflection. Remind yourselves that the associates are drawn to hide from the information, not to reveal it. Both partners appear under their best day in front of the person for whom they try to attract. They keep the secrets which could induce some aversion. Consequently, several newly-weds have a big surprise first year of their marriage. I suggest that you set at least on one year to go behind the facade and really know the internal character of the person.

If you are really a believer, do not allow a godless to dominate you.

You can hope to gain your spouse in your religion later, and it arrives occasionally. But it is risked, even rash, to trust above. And you must never require a conversion to yours.

This is true for all the religions.

Do not move in with your partner before wedding... 

... It undermines the relation and often leads to the divorce. A studies, based on 50 years of information, show that those who live together before the marriage are 50 % more chance to divorce that those who do not make it. [I would qualify this recommendation: settle down together is not it a way of knowing better?]

Do'nt marry if you are too young. 

Those who get married too young are twice as subject to the divorce as those who wait about twenty. Some qualities are required to make a family and they come only with the maturity, some the altruism, the stability and the self-control.

The stability of the marriage results from a determination based on a will of iron to see it making a success. 

If you choose to get married, do it with a hard resolution to remain committed one to another for all your life. Never threaten to leave your partner when you are irritated. Do not allow to consider the possibility of a divorce.

 " The marriage is not a means to avoid the suffering, but to suffer in a precise purpose. " (Mike Mason)

 

I would also include the sense of humor as essential matter. She / he must know how to be able to laugh, without taking itself too seriously...

 

8* Do not risk to be a victim of a sentimental swindle.

 

Be very attentive to the motivations of your partner: does not he have a powerful motive to marry you by interest? In particular, if he is a foreigner, does not he want, by the marriage, obtain simply the right to live in your country?

Citations :

  • "To make a good marriage, the husband has to be deaf and the woman blinds" (Richard Taverner).

  • Paul Guth said also: " A psychiatrist is a man whom we very pay dearly so that he asks you questions which a woman puts us it, free of charge. " 

It is true what says Guth! 

  • Having said that, do not take the first who comes, there I address not only our single person, but also to us, married people, who will have adviser occasions, on the choice of a woman, our friends or our children!

  • The room where I slept during my childhood was in the angle of a roof: many a time, I did not find it funny, when I got up without thinking of it, I cracked myself the head in the ceiling. Thus, to live in the angle of a roof, it causes many troubles of head! But even less than to live with a woman who roars without stopping!! It is thus necessary not to catch hearing badly married people to say words in the style of André Prévot: " Single man is a man who makes a success of not finding a wife."

  •  "The cement of the marriage: One of the most important ingredients of the marriage which lasts all the life can be redrawn in quality of the "link" which forms during the period of the associates. This link it is the process by which a man and a woman cement emotionally together. It describes the chemistry which allows for two persons previously foreign the one to other one to become intensely precious with the eyes of the other one. He allows to wipe the storms of the life and to remain engaged in the disease and the health, in the wealth and the poverty, for the best and the worst, forgetting all the others until the death separates them ". (James Dobson:)

  • Louise finds that Steve spoils her far too much when they go out together. She asks her mother: " how prevent him from spending so much money on me?  -Marry him", she answer.

For other quotes, 

you can make a search on Google, by typing : 

"quote about mariage"

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Some of these advices are translated from  http://www.croixsens.net/sexe/... 

 

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