Why to marry

Sexual attractiveness is as strong as you improve a longing for to be always together. But will you in love for him/her for ever, with daily disputs, inavoidable conflicts, illness, old age? This sexual attractiveness ismore much slave of your libido than outcome of a freedom..

Marriage and more much wedding is a contract for all your life. Divorce is not a solution, even if it's possible.

Some right and wrong reasons to get married

Some more advices

More on this point

A poem by Mari Nicols

In marriage.about.com , Sheri & Bob Stritof give some right and wrong reasons to get married :

Some wrong reasons to get married.

Want to be free from parents.
To have sex.
To ease loneliness.
To be happy.
To be an adult.
Because of a pregnancy.
He or she loves you.
For money.
For immigration purposes.

Some right reasons to get married.

You are in love with one another.
A desire to share your life with another.
To have a lifetime companion.
Realistic expectations.
Willingness to fulfill one another's needs and desires.

A lot of good advices are in marriage.about.com/

But it's not enough : Is he / she the good person for you ?

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Some more advices :

Take the time to know your partner: time of engagement ! Time of separation, to test loneliness, independance and freedom.

If you are not ready, let say that! If your partner love realy he'll wait for you. If he is impatient, it's a bad symptom!

Get ready whith other : Talking with friend or a psychologist and conjugal advisor. Christian churches offer meeting places where you can meet persons who are married soon, and talk with them...

More on this point :

www.preparation-mariage.eu/couple/BDCANG.DOC

marriage.about.com/od/proposing...Engaged.htm

www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/couples/life_whymarry.shtml

www.umich.edu/~ece/student_projects/wedding_bride/purposes.html

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Why Marriage? by Mari Nichols

Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body...

Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me,
Who won't hold them against me,
Who loves me when I'm unlikable,
Who sees the small child in me, and
Who looks for the divine potential of me...

Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night
With someone who thanks God for me,
With someone I feel blessed to hold...

Because marriage means opportunity
To grow in love in friendship...

Because marriage is a discipline
To be added to a list of achievements...

Because marriages do not fail, people fail
When they enter into marriage
Expecting another to make them whole...

Because, knowing this,
I promise myself to take full responsibility
For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness
I create me,
I take half of the responsibility for my marriage
Together we create our marriage...

Because with this understanding
The possibilities are limitless.

From www.hitched.co.uk/speeches/poems/

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